Monday, 11 September 2017

Life: 30 Years And What I've "Learned"

It's my birthday month and while I cannot stand Organised Fun or events that feel like the may turn out to be a Bit Of A Disappointment, I'm trying to be a more positive person. This month is not only an excuse to drink copious amounts of gin but also to reflect a little before starting my fourth (!) decade.

Birthday Cake With A Candle at The Standard, NYC - for when it's not your birthday but you want cake anyway.
So here are some thoughts to take away from 30 years of existence (I planned to do 30 things for 30 years but...that's a lot). The last 2-3 years might have really been the steepest learning curve in terms of all that I now "know". Something about a one-way flight to the other side of the world will do that and, besides, I've already forgotten my 12 times table and still struggle to use a knife and fork properly...

1. Checking the dates and times of flights again and again and again saves a lot of upset and applies at age 29 as much as it did at 19.

2. Editing the words "just" and "sorry" out of my speech and emails is an essential but...ongoing process. I'm not actually sorry about anything.

3. Putting my phone into airplane mode after two G&Ts makes drinking much, much more enjoyable.

4. Celebrating the successes and life milestones of others is fun, there's room for all and "my turn" will come (although not knowing when is all part of the fun...).

6. Hair grows back - although I've cut and dyed mine to the point that I'm now just grateful to be able to wear the same style as I did at aged 8.

7. There will always be nice things to convince me to part with my money. None of them will make me any happier.

8. Notable exception to the rule: Louboutin Simple Pumps in black patent leather.

9. There are always exceptions to rules.

10. And rules are made to be broken anyway.

11. Spending a small fortune (don't actually work it out - its depressing) on coffee and Diet Coke each year is fine by me. See point 7.

12. Learning to graciously accept compliments is hard but worth it. So worth it.

13. I'll never stop learning about "who" I am - it turns out that I actually don't like "alone time" as much as I thought I did.

14. Things I don't regret: spending too much money on holidays, filling a suitcase with Korean skincare, getting a tattoo, staying up all night, my "drinking straight vodka to look cool" phase.

15. Things I do regret: excessive worrying about the future, about what people think of me, about whether I'm "good enough", trying to be "cool", spending moments I won't get back looking for an available wifi network.

16. Truly believing that there's still so much fun to be had and so much to look forward to is as sweet as the above-pictured cake, as is typing these words and actually meaning them.



  1. I agree with so much of this. Especially the coffee and Diet Coke! I think the day I stop having the argument in my head about whether to buy a coffee or not is the day I *am* spending too much on it. Small pleasures in life are needed in my eyes!
    Hope you have a lovely birthday month. Age is just a number.

  2. I totally agree about the holidays- spending money on time and experiences is much more worth it than spending it on stuff.
    Enjoy your birthday month!

  3. Love all of these! Definitely learning about the things I shouldn't worry about... it's all a process right!

    Jasmin Charlotte

  4. Great post, Lily. And happy birthday! x

  5. Coffee and Diet Coke are ALWAYS worth it in my book! 😏

  6. Ah I love this.. the first one I am completely guilty of! haha. Happy Belated Birthday to you! x


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